What you need to understand is women are driven by their feelings. So if your girl was the one who did the breaking up, chances are her emotional needs were not being met by you. To get back an ex girlfriend you need to show her that you have changed and now able to support her emotionally.
So how do you do that?
Your first step to win your ex girlfriend back is to contact her after you have both had time to cool off. There could be a whole host of other men lining up, so contact her as soon as you think the time is right. Contacting her does not only mean calling her. You could also email her, send a text message, or even a card.
Every time you chat with her or see her in person, pay close attention to what she says. This will help you in two ways:
Firstly, you will show her that you acknowledge and value her opinion – this is very important in making her feel wanted and understood.