The key to healing a broken heart is accepting that the building up and breaking down of relationships is as inescapable as the seasons. No matter what you do, there will be a time where change occurs. And many of us have gone through more than one break up or divorce in our lives.
A breakup can be very painful. So here are 4 steps to getting over a broken heart and embracing the change in your life:
1. Accept the change:
Sometimes when big events happen in our lives, in healing a broken heart we prefer to avoid the truth and deny that anything has happened, instead of accepting the changes.
For example, Susan was desperate to save her marriage. But her husband, who was tired of all the counseling insisted on a divorce. Against what was the right thing to do, Susan kept on holding onto the marriage her partner no longer wanted to be in.
Now, I’m not saying that giving up on a relationship is ALWAYS the right thing to do. Actually, I am a great believer in faith and rekindling lost love. What I’m trying to say is that to mend a broken heart, Susan was denying the change around her, instead of accepting that her marriage was over.
2. See it as a learning experience:
In healing a broken heart, you need to see every relationship and breakup as a learning experience. Every so often, people lose touch with other and fall out of love, and when it happens we should embrace and learn from it. In so doing you will discover ways to either improve the current relationship, or become a better person for your next relationship.
3. Be grateful for what happened:
To be able to heal a broken heart, try to grateful for everything that happens in your life. Understand that you are who you are today, as a result of your friends, family and past lovers, your experiences, and the stories that have impacted your life.
A number of people have learned that showing gratitude helped in healing a broken heart after a dramatic breakup changed their lives.
4. Look at the present and decide where you want to be in the future:
Whether you are in an unhappy relationship and want to make it work, or going through a breakup, you need to take the time to decide what you really want in life. Ask yourself: “What is one small step I can take now that will help me get to where I want to be?” Once you know what that step is, do it and you will find it easier in getting over a broken heart and moving towards a brighter future.
Everybody goes through drastic change in their lives, including breakups. Hopefully these steps will help you in healing a broken heart and opening up to a world of endless love and possibilities.